Far northern California reminds me so much of rural Massachusetts, New Hampshire, and Vermont. Vast expanses of rocky, rolling mountains covered in the green of spring- the neon of new grasses, bright yellows and purples of the first wildflowers, budding trees and fresh leaves, and the ever-present anchor of the evergreens as far as the eye can see. As we drive to Klamath, CA- just south of the Oregon border on the Pacific coast, I find myself feeling a bit of longing for the familiarity of the east coast. This hasn’t happened since we’ve been on the road- at least not at a time when we couldn’t change our plans and quell our desire to be… wherever. But right now we have solid plans- the Life is Good Conference at the end of the month, friends who have become family awaiting us in British Columbia, Tough Mudder at the end of June, and an Alaskan Cruise/RV to Denali National Park in July. Not a bad lineup.
I haven’t ‘missed’ anything in a really long time. It’s an uncomfortable feeling that calls me back to a focus on the present. What is it about now that isn’t sitting right? Why the longing? Generally when I feel I need something – food, sugar, place, person – there is a void that I am not recognizing.
Lately I have been noticing recurring thoughts of the future. What will the next adventure be? How long will we RV? Will we go abroad? How? For how long? Will the kids decide, at some point, that they want to be stationary? Will Chris or I? What if I never fulfill my dream of farming? Is this a real dream or a romanticized one? If we did settle down, where would it be? Is traveling going to continue to be financially feasible? Would settling down end up being more expensive?
When I look at the questions in print, I recognize fear. Fear of the future. Fear of the unknown. It’s familiar and familiar feels good no matter how bad it feels… But I know I don’t have the answers. And I don’t need them. I am brilliantly happy with my life. Maybe that’s where the questioning comes in. A deep breath waiting for the other shoe to drop? And yet I’m here because of choices made with a focus on living in the present moment rather than the more common sacrificial perspective in which we spend most of our lives waiting, saving, and planning for moments too short or that may never come at all. The spotlight falls on… being open. Seizing opportunities. Staying still when it feels right. Moving, seeing, doing when we want. Honoring the changes in ourselves and each other. Recognizing that we create our lives and choice creates empowered joy. We always have a choice.